by Kailyn Hooten
Posted on July 25, 2018 at 23:19
My parents divorced when I was six years old, and then my dad divorced again when I was a sophomore in high school. I was put in therapy multiple times when I really didn’t want to go, but the older I got the more I realized how much it can facilitate personal development. When you’re young, you are physically incapable of separating your emotions from situations and making rational decisions a lot of the time. It helps to have someone from the outside looking in, helping you, never judging. I will admit finding the right therapist can be difficult, but finding the right one truly helps ease our crazy and unpredictable lives. Even when we think we can handle things all on our own, it helps to simply not have to. You’re not alone. On the contrary, by restricting yourself from access to all the support therapy gives, you’re putting yourself in a position to be alone. A lot of times, as soon as we think we have everything figured out, something else happens that proves just how wrong we were. That happened for me last year: I got in a car accident that should have ended my life. I can’t even begin to describe the kinds of nightmares and flashbacks I had after the accident. My doctor suggested I go to an EMDR therapist to help move on. Without the help of my therapist, I would still probably be triggered on a day to day basis by little things like hard brakes in a car and dividers on a freeway. Without accepting the help of my therapist her and listening to her guidance, I would be in a much darker place today. The great thing about therapy is sometimes it’s really just a venting session. You can alleviate so much of the stress in our lives by simply talking about it. And as comforting as it is to talk to the people we are closest to, sometimes it’s best to talk to someone outside of our own bubble. Therapy has genuinely helped with so much in my life, I just wish more people would see it more as a tool rather than a crutch.