My parents divorced when I was six years old, and then my dad divorced again when I was a sophomore in high school. I was put in therapy multiple times when I really didn’t want to go, but the older I got, the more I realized how much seeking treatment can facilitate personal development. When you’re young, you’re physically incapable of separating your feelings from situations and making rational decisions a lot of the time. It helps to have someone from the outside looking in, helping you, never judging. I will admit finding the right therapist can be difficult, but finding a good match truly helps ease our crazy and unpredictable lives. Even when we think we can handle things all on our own, it helps. You’re not alone.
On the contrary, by restricting yourself from access to all the support therapy gives, you’re putting yourself in a position to be alone. A lot of times, as soon as we think we have everything figured out, something else happens that proves just how wrong we were. That happened to me last year: I got in a car accident that should have ended my life. I can’t even begin to describe the kinds of nightmares and flashbacks I had after that traumatic event. My doctor suggested I go to an EMDR therapist to help me move on. Without the help of my therapist, I would still probably be triggered on a day-to-day basis by little things like hard brakes in a car and dividers on a freeway. Without accepting the help of my therapist and listening to her care and guidance, my mental health would be in a much darker place today. The great thing about therapy is that sometimes it’s really just a venting session to a health professional. You can alleviate so much of the stress in your lives by simply talking about it. And as comforting as it is to talk to the people we are closest to, sometimes it’s best to talk to someone outside of our own bubble. Therapy has genuinely helped with so much of the recovery in my life. I just wish more people would see it more as a tool rather than a crutch.